First of all, thank you for sharing your side of the story mate, secondly welcome to the forum and there really isn't a need to feel paranoid here.
I know how it feels trust me, I remember being in the same position as you are around women. As a result of this fascination with girls stomachs, I felt closed up around girls at an early age. I always use to take a step back whilst my mates use to be a lot more open and almost treat women like one of the guys. I found it difficult to digest how they were able to control themselves in that manner around women.
It really wasn't so long ago at my first job that I learnt to manage my fetish. Work had left me no other option but to suppress my urges and pretend like I was a completely different person. Miraculously, this has worked better for me than anything else. Now, I don't have a problem with approaching women or talking to them. Though when I meet certain female customers wearing tops which reveal that special area, yes, I do take a moment to appreciate it but in return I exchange a warm smile'em and they don't seem to mind.
I always maintain or at least try to maintain a "look-above-the-shoulder" approach with certain women, this way, it keeps me focused. Some people call it lying to oneself, but I rather be able to communicate or I end up like Raj from the big bang theory.
Credits, T&N.
